Date Night Questions

1) Celebrate the Story Light, grateful, connective.

  1. What's one moment from our first year together that you still think about?

  2. What's something I did early in our marriage that told you we were going to make it?

  3. What's the most unexpected way I've grown that has made you proud?

  4. When have you felt most seen by me in these __ years?

  5. What's one chapter of our story that you think we don't talk about enough?

2) Know Each Other Again Slow it down. Curiosity over assumption.

  1. What's something you want more of from me that you've never known how to ask for?

  2. Where do you feel like I still misunderstand you, even after __ years?

  3. What do you carry alone that you wish we carried together?

  4. How has your definition of love changed since the day we got married?

  5. What does it feel like to be loved by me, honestly?

3) The Unfinished Work Gets real. Go slow.

  1. Where have I let fear cost us something?

  2. Where have you felt the loneliest in our marriage? And what did you need from me in that moment?

  3. What's one version of yourself you've set aside for the sake of our family? And do you grieve it?

  4. What's something you've forgiven me for that you don't think I know you've forgiven?

  5. Where do you feel like we're still growing toward each other, not just alongside each other?

4) The Next 20 Years Vision, legacy, and what you're building together.

  1. What does the best version of us look like when our kids are grown?

  2. What's one thing you want us to do together that we've never done? Not a trip, but a becoming?

  3. What do you hope our kids say about our marriage when they're our age?

  4. If fear wasn't a factor, what would you ask me to step into for our family?

  5. What's one dream you have for us that you haven't said out loud yet?